Life as many say has got multiple highs and lows in equal measure. Sometimes these lows don’t leave us the same way, because they open our eyes to a reality which we didn’t sign up for. Trying times are not one of the things many people like talking about mostly if they are focused on their mental health. But they are inevitable.

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Like one scholar said, a storm is a violent disturbance of the atmosphere with strong winds and usually rain, thunder, lightning, or snow. And yes, these are all extreme conditions.
Storms in our life can be a betrayal from a friend we have known for years and shared with great memories, the sudden death of a loved one, failing at school, home or work, losing a job, being the outcast in society, having a chronic illness and all that life can throw at us.
Truth be told non of us have ever been psychologically prepared for a diffcult day, but rather all that is popularised in speech in many spaces is how to enjoy life when all goes well. Which am totally for however, we can all attest to the fact that as many good things go on in our life there are many uncormfortable things too that we experience.
If we are lucky enough some of these problems come to pass but if not, we may have to find ways of co-existing with them.
I believe that in order to be considered sane today, you have to choose which side of this scale you will make your life about. Choosing to only rely on the bad that is going on in your life can suggest that there is no good going on. And deciding to dwell on only the good can suggest that there is no bad going on in your life. Such extremes can be considered unreal by many. So finding a balance of where to focus our energy can be a great place for us to start from. However this balance has to have a place where it stems from according to individual beliefs say a higher power.
It is important to note that many times we may not understand why we are going through what we are going through. A sense of understanding only comes after awhile when we look back, and connect the past events to those in the present.
You should also know that it is okay to understand many things after you have gone through them, you don’t have to figure it all out now.
And remember that what you focus on more is what you will experience more.
Now, choosing to give thanks after such trying times is not about giving thanks for the bad you have experienced, but rather that you made it out safe and sound and can now give encouragement to someone going through the same. Isn’t that what life is all about, being able to lift others up?
On whether or not you can give thanks will depend on the state of your heart and how much healing you have received.